Infertility and Pregnancy Announcements

Before I get into this post I wanted to let everyone know that this is a really personal topic. It is also a very sensitive topic for every person going through Infertility. EVERY SINGLE PERSON GOING THROUGH INFERTILITY HANDLES PREGNANCY ANNOUNCEMENTS DIFFERENTLY! This post is just my personal view. That being said... Here goes.

in a car, outside a house, into your pillow...

I have to be honest. I didn't used to handle pregnancy announcements very well. I mean, I really handled them horribly. From feelings of jealousy, to wishing the worst upon those who announced. I am not proud of this. When going through infertility, you see A LOT of negative pregnancy tests. So anytime someone announces that they got a positive test, that they are pregnant, it hits a spot in those people's hearts that is very tender and sensitive. All we want is to be pregnant and to have a healthy pregnancy, and when someone we know gets that opportunity before us, it hurts.

We are strong, and we will make it through this!

I have seen many, many, pregnancy announcements since I began my journey with Infertility. Some were easier to handle than others. Usually, I struggled more with the announcement if it was someone I knew a little better or if the announcement came the same day I got a negative test. I struggled even more than that if the person said that they were upset that they were pregnant, or that they didn't want another baby at that time but that they would endure the pregnancy and have the baby.

There were some announcements that came a little bit easier for me to handle. These were those where I knew someone was also struggling to get pregnant. To me these were victorious pregnancies. Someone who had struggled finally got pregnant!

Some others that came easier were those that I was expecting. These were from people who had been kind enough to let me know that they had decided to start trying to get pregnant. I love when people tell me this! I am very good at keeping secrets, especially if they are of a sensitive nature. I found that when someone told me that they were trying, I rooted for them. I couldn't wait to hear that they were pregnant. It made it easier for me when they did announce. Again, NOT EVERY PERSON SUFFERING WITH INFERTILITY IS LIKE THIS!

This quote has helped me immensely! I love baby 

snuggles, and I try to get some any chance I get.

It took me a couple of years of infertility and struggling with my feelings of jealousy to figure out a better way to handle the many, many, pregnancy announcements. It was definitely with the help of the Lord. He helped me to realize that every pregnancy was one more person's success. One less person who had to go through the pain of infertility, or one more person who was victorious in defeating infertility.

Yes, I definitely still have my moments where I struggle with pregnancy announcements. I have shed quite a few tears over my 4 1/2 years of trying to get pregnant and seeing others have success before me. But I am getting better at handling them. I am definitely not perfect, and maybe I'll never be. But at least I am trying, and that is what counts.

This is one of my favorite quotes!

To every person out there struggling. PLEASE don't give up! There is success ahead for all of us, whether that be with our own pregnancy announcements, or in the announcement that we are going to adopt a beautiful little baby. We WILL get there. You are not alone!

Becca